Most people have heard the term "playing not to lose" before. If you haven't, you just did. This term gets thrown around a lot when a team, or a person, gets into something and focuses solely on NOT losing.
All they can think about is them not losing.
And what happens? They lose!
Being focused on what it is that you don't want is a great strategy...to get what it is that you do not want!
If you're playing a game, trying not to lose is like playing defense until the other person wins. How effective can that be? Instead of trying to win, you are trying to keep the other person from scoring, and, by the time the games over, you realize you've missed each and every opportunity that you had, because you were too focused on not losing.
Why not try to win instead?
I know, that's a crazy idea.
If you have a goal to go towards, you will go forwards, towards that goal. When you are continuously thinking about an outcome that you do not want your mind only recognizes that FOCUS as your goal. Your mind doesn't understand goals in the negative, so when you are so intent on how much you "do not want to fail", you know what ends up happening? You fail.
You must have something that you can aim for. It's not any different from aiming at a pin when you're bowling, or at the hole when you're golfing. Know what you WANT, and know how to get there.
Give yourself a direction to head in to set yourself up for success, and not failure.
If it's a real job online you want, decide what will make that job real for you. If you just want to know you can do it to begin with, focus on things that make that a fact to you.
Browse our site for ideas, get some self help books, and really try to understand how you can assist yourself in reaching that target.
Create supportive situations that will help you get where it is you have in mind.
If it means cutting the cable (figuratively of course) then so be it.
If you can't bring yourself to spend time reading a book on self confidence, or what ever it may be check out our site for software and programs that can help you in the process, and will make it a lot easier. There are tools out there that will help you set yourself up for success, you just have to USE THEM!
If you need any more ideas, check out our site, and be sure to sign up for our mailing list and receive our guide on 5 steps to taking action and being successful! You'll be glad you did. - 15478
All they can think about is them not losing.
And what happens? They lose!
Being focused on what it is that you don't want is a great strategy...to get what it is that you do not want!
If you're playing a game, trying not to lose is like playing defense until the other person wins. How effective can that be? Instead of trying to win, you are trying to keep the other person from scoring, and, by the time the games over, you realize you've missed each and every opportunity that you had, because you were too focused on not losing.
Why not try to win instead?
I know, that's a crazy idea.
If you have a goal to go towards, you will go forwards, towards that goal. When you are continuously thinking about an outcome that you do not want your mind only recognizes that FOCUS as your goal. Your mind doesn't understand goals in the negative, so when you are so intent on how much you "do not want to fail", you know what ends up happening? You fail.
You must have something that you can aim for. It's not any different from aiming at a pin when you're bowling, or at the hole when you're golfing. Know what you WANT, and know how to get there.
Give yourself a direction to head in to set yourself up for success, and not failure.
If it's a real job online you want, decide what will make that job real for you. If you just want to know you can do it to begin with, focus on things that make that a fact to you.
Browse our site for ideas, get some self help books, and really try to understand how you can assist yourself in reaching that target.
Create supportive situations that will help you get where it is you have in mind.
If it means cutting the cable (figuratively of course) then so be it.
If you can't bring yourself to spend time reading a book on self confidence, or what ever it may be check out our site for software and programs that can help you in the process, and will make it a lot easier. There are tools out there that will help you set yourself up for success, you just have to USE THEM!
If you need any more ideas, check out our site, and be sure to sign up for our mailing list and receive our guide on 5 steps to taking action and being successful! You'll be glad you did. - 15478
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